Guilt Free Dieting – A Case Study using HcG
June 5, 2010 by Kimberly Darwin
Filed under Beauty, Featured, Live Guilt Free
Is There a Guilt Free Way to Lose Weight?
Today I decided to document my curiosity. With all the hype about the HcG diet craze, my undying need for new experiences forces me to find out more. Anyone who knows me is aware of my anal research habits, which could include a dozen hours poring through white papers, documents and Web sites, before I make a decision to buy something. And even with all the research, sometimes the product or service turns out to be a scam anyway. I know a dozen people who have lost significant amounts of weight using HcG, and this with both the injections (ack) and the sub-lingual drops.
And since my aim is to live guilt-free, what better subject to study than one that causes more guilt than any other–dieting. So over the next 23 days I will document my findings here–both guilt-related, physical and mental–so that others can make a well-informed decision as to whether this miracle diet is worthy of their time or not. And no, that’s not me in the picture here.
My necessary disclaimers and full disclosure: I work in the Internet industry and I am not an affiliate or related to anyone selling this stuff. I bought my liquid HcG drops based on a friend’s recommendation at YourHcg.com. They were very revenue-oriented and terrible conversationalists, but gave me a 20% discount on a 15-day supply (I later learned that I will have to buy another bottle to finish the program, so don’t make that mistake!); the bottle arrived 3 days later as promised.
I am not a doctor, and I did not consult one professionally regarding this stuff. I did speak to a doctor who has prescribed the injections but knew nothing of the drops since he is not a naturopath and doesn’t claim to know anything about that area of the medical field.
I understand that weight is lost based on calories in vs calories out, and that the source of those calories has an effect on hormonal balance and thus weight loss. I exercise five times a week; I use a combination of strength training, Pilates, and cardio. I also ride my horse about three times a week.
My eating habits are already better than 95% of Americans. I eat fish and chicken, and limit pork and red meat to once a month. I limit my sugar but don’t avoid it completely. I eat low-fat or fat-free cheese, eggs and their whites, and eat only whole grain breads. I limit my pasta intake because I eat too much of it when it’s in front of me. If I could live on cheese and sour cream for the rest of my life, I would. (I know that there are many of you out there.) I eat five times a day, which feels more like grazing.
Prior to this experiment, I weighed 143.4 lbs. According to my trainer, I should weigh 125 lbs, which would put me at a BMI of 20, which is nearly at the bottom of the healthy range for my height of 5’7″. According to my doctor, I should weigh 140 lbs, which would put me at a BMI of 22. My BMI is currently 23, which is still within the range of healthy. Based on these recommendations, I am aiming for a weight of 133 lbs with a BMI of 21, which is smack in the middle of the healthy zone. This amounts to just over 10 lbs of weight loss.
Today is my first day of taking drops. I was instructed to administer 6 drops under the tongue, 6 times a day. On the first two days, I am instructed to eat as many high-fat foods as possible in order to prepare myself for the severe cutback of calories on the third day. I can understand this principle, yet since I don’t eat like that normally, I am kinda grossed out. I have had 2 Dunkin Donuts and a sausage and egg sandwich, which normally would be my entire day’s worth of calories.
I am on my sixth glass of water at 10:30am because of all the salt I just ate.
My stomach feels like I swallowed wet cement and it’s hardening inside right now.
Are You a Bird Perched Alone?
May 10, 2010 by Kimberly Darwin
Filed under Awareness, Featured, Law of Attraction
Do You Feel Disconnected from the World?
Last week a series of horrible and vulgar events sent me spiraling downwards into a pool of pity. In my eyes the world was against me and despite all my knowledge of the powers of manifestation, I couldn’t change my negative mood into a positive one. I locked myself away from the rest of the world and stewed.
I tried counting my blessings, and there were dozens, thankfully, but this time that didn’t seem to help. I planted flowers (they died), baked muffins, and got a new haircut. Still…I was in the pits, disconnected from the rest of the world.
And then I remembered what Aristotle said: “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.”
How long was I going to keep up this habit of thinking negative thoughts? The constant repetition would create…you got it…a habit. So once I realized that this negative habit didn’t fit into my master plan, the decision to lose the negativity–to delve back into humanity–and to show my excellence again was an easy transition for me. After all, that is my (and your) natural state.
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Guilt Free Passwords
May 1, 2010 by Kimberly Darwin
Filed under Awareness, Featured
Make affirmations an everyday part of your day by creating passwords out of them
We all know that thinking and focusing on positive thoughts allows us to manifest our destiny. And affirmations are a great way to remind ourselves of our goals, aspirations and desires throughout the day. But, really, how much can one mind remember to do?
If you are a voracious self-help reader as I am, no doubt the book you’re reading asks you to take 15 minutes a day here, and 20 minutes a day there, to perform some mental exercise that will help originate change. Fantastic! Is that 15 minutes BEFORE I get up at 4:00am to go to the gym, or AFTER the 20 minutes I have set aside for meditation? Is it BEFORE the kids start screaming for dinner, or AFTER I have spent my half hour rewriting my 1, 3 and 5-year goals in my journal?
So if you’re a computer user, here’s a sure-fire way to be sure you repeat your affirmations to yourself multiple times throughout the day without blocking out any time in your schedule: make them into passwords.
Example:
Here’s an affirmation I used when I was losing weight:
“It take less food nowadays to fill me up.”
How can I make that into a password? Take the first character of each word, switch around some keys that make sense, and add some capitals.
So the affirmation “It take less food nowadays to fill me up” can be made into this:
ItlFn2fmu
It’s even better if you can add special characters to the mix. Here’s another affirmation I could use:
“I am manifesting everything I desire at lightning speed”
…Into this:
IamMeId@Ls
Switch it around by adding a whole word (like “am” in the above example), and the affirmation will be even easier to remember. Strong passwords contain a combination of upper-case, lower-case letters and numbers, and extra characters wherever possible. No dog names, here, or birthdays, or the word “Password” (yes, lots of people do).
Choosing an affirmation as a password not only keeps you and your goals on track, but it also helps keep your information extra secure.
Can we Manifest Guilt?
April 17, 2010 by Kimberly Darwin
Filed under Featured, Law of Attraction, Live Guilt Free, Relationships
Does thinking guilty feelings manifest more in the future?
The Law of Attraction exists to deliver to us the things on which we focus. Visualization can be both a blessing and a curse, depending on how you use it. As masters like Abraham advise us that the Law is here to provide for us anything we need to fulfill our life’s goals of experiencing God’s magnificence and the gift of free will, the Law makes no judgment of good–or bad–in what we request.
So if you are consistently focusing on, let’s say, your sickness, and ignoring the rest of your body which is in total health, then you will bring about more sickness until it becomes your complete reality, taking over the healthy areas of your body. Alternatively, if you focused on the healthy parts of your body, showing gratitude for that health despite the small area of you which is resisting it, then the Law will deliver more health–eventually healing whichever ailment you may have. The Law doesn’t care if it is delivering you what you consider to be GOOD or BAD–it only delivers to you what you ask for. And whether you are focusing on your sickness–or your health–you are asking for more of the same.
So why would anyone ever focus on the negative?
Look around you and ask yourself if you know many people, if any, who don’t.
We all know those people who love to talk about their most recent ailment, whether it be a perpetually bad knee or the constant migraines, or that their husband is a fat slob, or that they just can’t seem to lose weight. They relish in the audience they receive, despite the fact that no one they speak to really wants to hear about it.
And guilt is about as negative as it gets.
Guilt is something no one wants. Aside from your passive-aggressive grandmother who layers it on like cream cheese icing if you don’t visit often enough, there is no room for guilt in anyone’s lives. So why do we feel so much of it?
We feel guilt because we think we should have done something differently from what we actually did. And the Law says that our actions are based on focused thoughts and their resultant feelings. So my deduction here is that we did something that we KNEW we shouldn’t have done, and now we feel bad about doing it.
We were focusing on the negative. We did what we knew we shouldn’t have done. And now we feel guilt.
So next time you feel guilty, look backward (but only briefly!) to your thoughts and feelings about what you were thinking when you didn’t do what you knew you should have done. Note these feelings, and then move on. If you continue to focus on your guilt, then the Law will bring you more of what it thinks you want.
And don’t forget to visit your grandmother once in a while.
Living a Guilt Free Chaotic Life
December 1, 2009 by Kimberly Darwin
Filed under Awareness, Live Guilt Free, Parenting, Relationships
Chaos as a Way of Life
Do you ever come home from work and experience this in your first ten minutes through the door: you are attacked by the dogs, face a whining family who can’t find anything to eat despite a kitchen full of food, skid across socks on the floor, deal with piled-up mail, answer the ringing phone and encounter still-unmade beds?
I deal with this every day. After overtime on the job, I drive home in the solitude of my car (sometimes I don’t want to get out!) only to arrive home to what should be my sanctuary, but is rather a screaming zoo of chaos. I can barely take a breath before something else is requiring my attention, and there I stumble, one shoe still on my foot, to put out another virtual fire between demanding loved ones.
So last week, I decided to take a weekend away from all of this, and go with a friend to Las Vegas. I had my own room, with a big fluffy bed covered in pillows, room service and curtains that blocked out the light so I could sleep late. Three whole days to myself with no one making demands of me!
Solitude isn’t what I expected it to be
Silence. Peace. Opportunity to go within. Freedom.
Boredom!
I was lost there, with the endless shopping and sightseeing and visual treats available to me. There were so many opportunities that none of them seemed appealing–because I had no one to share them with.
Missing the Chaos
I longed to return to the noise and the craziness, because that’s where my true interaction was. Not only was I missed at home, but they missed me; for they are an integral part of me, and I had left my most integral part of behind.
Enjoying your Routine
So next time you are faced with the temper tantrums, the spilled spaghetti and towels on the floor, remember that your presence plays a large part in the growth and community of others. Their–and your–needs are important, of course. A little quiet may–or may not!–refresh you.
Learning Not to be Offended by Others’ Habits
November 13, 2009 by Kimberly Darwin
Filed under Awareness, Featured, Live Guilt Free
The increasing popularity of electronic cigarettes led me to read more about the safety benefits of using them vs traditional tobacco cigarettes. In a statement last January, Dr. Jonathan Winickoff of Harvard Medical School called the Crown7 “a thousand times safer than cigarettes.” You can see the article here: ‘Just like the real thing’: Businesses push ‘e-cigarettes’. My topic here isn’t whether e-cigarettes are or are not safer than tobacco, but rather how people judge those who smoke at all.
Reading the comments left on the site after the article, the page was laden with forked-tongue remarks about how weak and pathetic smokers are. These people have decided that if you smoke, you have decided to purposely disgrace humanity with your presence in the form of second-hand smoke and tar-stained hands. You were created to offend others simply by your habit. Where is the compassion for those who may be struggling with a habit that’s tougher to kick than heroin?
Again, my argument here is not whether second-hand smoke is dangerous (although several recent studies have claimed that the dangers are not as real as once thought), but rather why people must feel offended at the choices of another. Of course, smokers–along with drinkers, and those who shove down three cheeseburgers at McDonalds, and those who crack their knuckles, and those who drink wine and get behind the wheel of their car, or those that slip out an expletive now and then, or those caught by surprise by public flatulence–should keep their habits to themselves.
How many of us does that leave, then, with no habits that may offend someone?
And why are people looking so hard to be offended? Is it because they want to elevate their own self-worth by attempting to diminish another’s? Are we projecting here?
Simply put, if one is content with oneself, then there is no need to be offended by another’s behaviour–ever.







